Dating After a Break Up or Divorce

If you’ve gone through a break up or divorce, you’re not alone. According to statistics published by Forbes, about half of first marriages end in divorce, and divorce rates are even higher in second and third marriages.

It’s important to not rush back into dating after a break up or divorce. Separating from your partner can be extremely difficult, and you’ll need to take time to process your emotions, rediscover yourself, and think about what you want in your next relationship. Once you’re ready to enter the dating world again, remember the following tips:

• Meet new people: There are many ways to meet new people. We are wise to consider “Where does the kind of person that I WANT to meet, hang out?” Maybe they volunteer to a cause they are passionate about. Perhaps they are taking a class, playing a sport (tennis, golf, pickle ball, volley ball), going to Yoga on the beach or attending spiritual events. Love animals? Would you volunteer at the SPCA or other animal charity? Maybe try a Dating App? You might be hesitant to embrace this new technology. But don’t discount it—these services could make it easier for you to meet someone new. Or, consider joining a class or attending a community event.
• Be honest. While you don’t need to divulge every detail of what led to your divorce, don’t purposefully keep things from a potential partner. Take the time to really get to know that person, before you over-share. Then as you have noted their character in action, let them know what you’re looking for in a new relationship. Trust is an essential component of any relationship, and you don’t want to build your next one based on lies.
• Wait to introduce your children. If you and your ex-partner share children, you may be excited to have them meet your new partner, but it’s important to not rush these introductions. Wait until you’ve gotten to know your new partner well and you’re sure that you want to be with them long-term.

Need to Talk to Someone?

Moving on after a break up or divorce can be very difficult, and many people in this position find it beneficial to speak with a therapist. You want to be your best self and not smuggle any OLD stuff into your future relationship. Invest in yourself and work to make the next chapter of your life- a great chapter. Contact my office today to request an appointment—we’ll be happy to schedule a session at a date and time that’s convenient for you.